Dear Jude: Bath time

Dear Jude, I love that you love your little blue bath tub. I love that once you’ve forgiven me for washing your hair, you continue to enjoy splashing about in the water, and drowning all the bath toys I put there for company. I love your scrunchy face that manages to squeeze all the light…

Dear Jude: Apologize

Dear Jude, regarding apologies: they are inevitable. I know you’ll be hearing a lot on when or how or why to apologize- even whether or not you should do it at all. Do it. As for when and how and why, apologize when you are wrong; apologize when pride isn’t worth the loss of or…

Dear Jude: non-negotiable respect

Dear Jude, always treat every female like a lady. It doesn’t matter what you think about her, or what you’ve heard about her. You don’t know her story, and her background is not your business. Do not ‘sweet her up’ for your own purposes, do not ‘diss’ her for your own convenience. Every single female…

Dear Jude: You’re always enough

Dear Jude, who you are is always enough for your mama. Wherever life takes you, whoever you become, never doubt that in any second of any day of your whole entire life, your mom will love you as much as she did the day she first heard your heartbeat. More. Whenever you want me, come…

Dear Jude: so much love

Dear Jude, when you were a tiny cuddly ball of baby, I could so easily write you epistles as I imagined who you would continue to unfold to be. Now that you’re such a big little boy :-), full of your very own personality and prerogatives, I find myself so amazed by the complexity of…

Christianity: not comparative

I cannot live my Christianity in a comparative state. Everyone on the outside of my skin will have their own ideas, ideologies and individual perspectives & interpretations of everything I may think, feel or believe.It is not my goal or my calling to be in constant combat with ‘other’; rather I seek to live in…

Dear Jude: love you, love me

Dear Jude, you’re my proof that some good things I’ve hoped about myself might just be true. Loving you teaches me how to love me too 

Calming tantrums with Love

Jude is more than just my beloved son. He is all mankind- in a size 4 diaper. Whenever Jude is stressing me out most (non-stop Mommy Mommy Mommy, up down up down Mommy Mommy) I have learnt one easy-but-difficult trick: love him even more. In the midst of his most strung out sessions I scoop…